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02 August 2006 @ 09:24 am
a strong point  
otterphoenix wrote in a reply post about abuse
"it made you who you are today and made you a more understanding person"
I have to say that what she said was absolutely spot on.
Thats kind of how I live my life and it helps me sometimes to move on from the rough patches. Sometimes I look back and say why me, was I such a bad person that I deserved to have these things done to me. It still does get to me sometimes as I think it does everyone but without those things happening I wouldn't be me. I wouldn't have a better understanding of such things and perhaps I wouldn't be able to express these things to others so they get a better understanding of it themselves. I've wondered what type of person I would have been had I had a more stable up bringing. I probably would have been stronger or more confident but in reality that person never existed. We are these people because this is who we are supposed to be and one way or another it has to have been for a reason. If these things hadn't happened we wouldn't be here helping each other the way that we are. If these things hadn't happened perhaps we wouldn't be a better writer or photographer or artist. Perhaps we wouldn't be a better mother or father for that matter. I've kind of always had this notion that everything happens for a reason. Sometimes that gets a little confusing say when a loved one dies suddenly or at a young age. But then there is the bad things that happen in life that actually give a new undertanding or walk us down a new path in life. Your probably thinking aren't you being a little optmistic but hey this doesn't happen to often for me so just roll with it. All I'm trying to say is that we are who we are and shouldn't feel hopeless and alone because of something nasty and horrible that someone else has done to us. Let those people wallow in their self hatred because they are the bad people in this world not us. I just want to live my life with its ups and downs but still forever forward. I dont want them to bring me down and I want what is best for me and my family. I hope that it is ok that I'm writing this, infact I hope that somewhere this has made someones day that little bit easier or perhaps a little brighter. To all of us out there just keep fighting!

Current Mood: contemplativecontemplative
Current Music: ghost busters is on telly
otterphoenixotterphoenix on August 2nd, 2006 11:14 pm (UTC)
Yup it helped me today hon.We take the hard bits and use them in a postive way .It's hard too damm hard.But my scars are part of my story as is the abuse .It's done now I can get something from it even just to support others its part of who I am.I will not be ashamed it wasn't me it was them.Thanks for your post hon:) *hugs*
overtheviewovertheview on August 4th, 2006 10:26 am (UTC)
Well if it wasn't for you I wouldn't have written the post, you inspired me.
Your fantastic at supporting other people on here.
Thank you for the inspiration! hugs
otterphoenixotterphoenix on August 4th, 2006 02:08 pm (UTC)
Goodness:)Hon when I was younger there was no support or anywhere like this.I wish there had been.I try and don't always get it right still trying to sort me out but we all need someone eh.Thanks for your kinds words.Thanks for sharing hon I know it isn't easy maybe I'll share mine one day but it would be long:)I think you are braver than me.It takes quite something to look back on things*hugs*
golly_goth on August 3rd, 2006 10:27 am (UTC)
I totally see where your coming from and I can totally agree.

As otterphoenix said, "We take the hard bits and use them in a positive way". I don't know about you guys but I see that as amazing (while totally true).

I go through life just wanting to hold my friends and protect them from and help them through everything that's bad in their life. I know I wouldn't be such a person if it hadn't been for my dad and I wouldn't trade that for the world. I love feeling so strongly about the people around me, even if sometimes it hurts.

Thanks for that post :)
overtheviewovertheview on August 4th, 2006 10:30 am (UTC)
I am exactly the same, I'm so protective of my friends and family that sometimes they laugh at me for being such a mum! haha it cracks me up.
Seriously though it felt amazing to write that post but even more so to hear that so many other people heal and get by in the same way. I'm so grateful to hear that, thanks so much for the reply it was awesome.
aidans_storyaidans_story on August 7th, 2006 04:07 am (UTC)
Hey sorry I havent been replying lately I did get a chance to read your post and I have to say its great to see a post like this. Were a community designed not only around helping when your down but sticking around once were up to help others in there fight. I would love to see more posts like this thank you very much for your post!